From Birth to Today: Reference Frame

 

We are born with our parents’ genetic structure, our immediate family and the close environment format us. After this, religion and the existing dominant culture affect who we become, and school adds the final main brushstrokes. On top of that, work, social life and experiences come as a polish. This is our conceptual environment.

Our conceptual environment plays the main role in our sense of the world and what is happening around us. All our character and identity are formed as a result of these. When we notice the wrong formations, it is not at all easy to reform them. Changing habits might take years. The “us” which is programmed from before forms the root of our journey. For example, I have been actively trying to rewrite myself from the beginning for 15 years. I am trying to change my habits and put more beneficial, joyous ones there instead. I know this as my process of change and improvement, and as my responsibility. For the life of me, I would never have believed that the formations given to me in my early years are this difficult to change if I hadn’t tried. I’ve learned that to change a habit we need to first of all be at peace with it, and accept it as it is, without making bargains with frailty; filling their space with new and better activities. And to have the new and good ones stable, we must have determination and awareness that we cannot abandon… I have learned these things by living. And I am trying to say this: May God help us all…

There is no point in blaming those who gave us the formations that we don’t like. They are also living according to the formations they were given by others, so what can they do? The problem comes from the links in the chain like me, who question this. Change starts in these links…

Ersin Pamuksüzer